Self-Help Books

What self-help books have been on your bookshelf lately?

I’m a big fan of reading, especially inspirational, motivational, and self-help books. I’m always looking for new recommendations, so let’s create a great resource here in the comments below.

Let me know what your favorite inspirational/motivational/self-help book(s) are!

Ways to Manage Your Smartphone Addiction

and be more present

Looking for New Year’s resolutions that will change your life? I invite you to consider making a promise to yourself to be more present in your life and put your phone down. Look, I totally get it that smartphones have made life much easier for us all. You can’t get lost thanks to GPS, you can find exactly what you need in the palm of your hand and shop smarter at the supermarket, and you can be more efficient.

But for many of us, we get sucked into the mindless stuff we can use on our smartphones too. From endless newsfeeds to time-wasting  apps, it can cause us to be glued to our phones instead of living in the moment with friends, family, and our kids.

Be honest, do you have a phone addiction? Let me know in the comments below where you fall on this spectrum.

Take control in 2019 to be more present and enjoy more of life through your eyes, not the lens of your phone. Here are 5 ways to make that happen.

Watch how much time you spend on your phone
It might help to keep a log as we often use our phones for business too. If you’re an iPhone user, the latest iOS update now includes a screen-time breakdown where you can see how much time you’re spending on your phone, and where. You’ll be shocked by the amount of time you’re spending. Thankfully, you can use settings to kick you off your phone if you’re using it too much, to retrain yourself.

Turn off useless notifications
Go to your notifications and turn them off for apps you don’t need. There’s no reason to be notified every single time one of your photos gets a like. Set a time of day where you’ll go to those apps and catch up, and set a time limit for how much time you’ll spend. When the time is up, close the app until tomorrow.

Do something more meaningful
Not all apps are a waste of time. Some of them can inspire you to do other things. One called Giantgood provides suggestions for how to add more meaning while putting your phone down. You might be told to go for a walk after dinner, call someone you love, or do something kind for a complete stranger.

Spend time outdoors
When was the last time you spent an afternoon outdoors? And no, walking from the parking lot to your office doesn’t count! I mean when did you last connect with the outdoor world? You don’t need to be a rustic outdoorsy person to benefit from nature. Just get out there and do something you enjoy, and ignore your phone while you’re there.

Say “no” to devices at dinner
For the family, enjoy more time together at the table by leaving devices off of it. Enact the rule that no one is allowed to use their smartphones or tablets, or even watch TV while you’re at the dinner table. This helps you reconnect in the real world. Find fun dinner conversations online to print off and have on hand to engage in an enjoyable discussion each night at dinnertime.

Start with one of these tips and gradually adjust to create a balance between the real world and the glossy virtual world we create and you’ll find you’re more satisfied with your life. And, who doesn’t want that?!

Do you think it’s easier to create a new habit or break an old one???

That can be a tough thing to answer, I know.  But really think about it today and see what comes up for you.

The thing is, the thought of breaking a habit seems difficult and uncomfortable.  We put it off and put it off, and sometimes never get around to it.

Starting a new habit can be exciting, filled with hope and newness.

See the difference?  Sometimes a shift in perspective and way of thinking is all we need to tackle that hurdle that’s been holding us back.

When’s the last time you disconnected from your phone for a bit?

It can feel like an impossibility — what if someone needs you? What if you get an important phone call? They’re all valid questions, but the answer is — life will go on, and you’ll find out soon enough. You likely don’t even know what it feels like to not have your phone within reach if you’re anything like me.  It’s become such an integrated part of our lives that we don’t even consider going without it.

Starting to break the invisible chain between you and your phone can feel awkward, uneasy and uncomfortable at first… but the rewards are amazing.

Start small today by taking a walk outside without your phone. Notice how you feel, how you notice things differently, and what your mind is thinking about.

Come back and let me know how it went, I want to know!

 

You know yourself better than anyone.  You know what tempts you, what you struggle with most, what you NEED the most, and how to achieve all you hope to accomplish.  It’s already inside of you, and you have this profound wisdom already.

Think about your biggest struggle when it comes to your health.

You know what tempts you to fall into this trap.  How can you alleviate this temptation to avoid giving in to your struggle?

 

 

It’s essential to take a few minutes out of our day to sit and be with ourselves and our thoughts, so we can learn the challenging art of quieting the mind.  If we never slow down, we will certainly never get to that point.

Meditation doesn’t have to be for the pros; you can do it yourself with just an app on your phone and ten minutes a day.  Fitting it into your morning or night routine does not take much effort, and the reward will be worth it.  Download an app onto your phone such as Headspace or Calm and give it a try.

Whatever situation you’re in right now — whole and happy, or journeying through a tough time — are you looking at it with a proactive mindset about how to continue?

If you’re struggling, have you brainstormed ways to get yourself out of the quicksand?  Do you know what step to take first, and the subsequent steps that come afterward?  A plan of action takes an immense amount of stress off of your shoulders, seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

Evaluate what is and isn’t working in your life and what the next steps are.  Your happiness is important and is a crucial part of your overall health.

In our culture, we do most of our connecting via the internet.  Our phones are in our hands more often than not, and it’s become quite a habit that’s hard to break free from.  That doesn’t mean it’s impossible, though — and all it takes is a bit of mindfulness to re-learn in-person connection.

Start by leaving your phone in another room during meal times this week — even if you are eating alone.  See what comes up when you’re left alone with your thoughts, and better yet, feel how great it feels to truly connect with the person sitting in front of you, distraction-free.  Are you up for the challenge?

 

At times, monotony can seep into our everyday lives if we let it.  Our schedule is on repeat, week after week, and as we go through the motions, we see our days and weeks slip right through our fingers unknowingly.  One of the main reasons for this is we mindlessly go through the motions.  We go on autopilot when we’re so used to our schedule, our work, our commute home.

Give something new a try.  Go about your days this week as if you are a stranger in your hometown, a visitor on vacation.  See how you seek out new experiences, soak up the surroundings differently, and see how different it makes you feel.  Adventures are in our everyday details if we let them be.

Have you ever thought of your health as a bank account?

This thought process brought so much insight to me, so I wanted to share it with you.  Think of each decision you make either being a deposit or a withdrawal from your “health bank account.”

Powerful, right?  Of course, don’t obsess over this, but try to incorporate this method of thinking into your life as much as possible.  Our small daily decisions are what adds up to our overall health, so it makes perfect sense to look at each of these decisions we make with a positive or negative effect.

Do you make more deposits or withdrawals?