Do You Trust Yourself

Do you trust yourself?

Have you ever found yourself falling into the trap of trusting someone else’s advice over your intuition?  I’ve done it myself, countless times.

All of these education channels are great, and I’m in no way discounting their effectiveness.  But, it’s important to watch yourself in these instances.  Make sure you are seeking your answers using your intuition and personal experience.  You know what you need, you know what you will thrive with, and you know what step to take next.  It’s inside of you.

 

 

 

 

 

How to Avoid a Smartphone Addiction

Admittedly, smartphones make life a lot easier when it comes to finding new places or looking up information right at our fingertips. We can respond to work emails while on the go and truly multi-task like never before. However, most of us need a little help with putting down the smartphone and actually engaging in the real world more often. Wouldn’t you agree?

Teach yourself the art of timeouts. While there will be times when you need your phone, you’ll want to train yourself to limit the time spent mindlessly scrolling through Facebook, Instagram, or whatever else you’ve got on there. Choose a time of day that works for you and make it a phone-free zone. Use this time instead to engage with the kids, your spouse, or yourself without using your phone. It will help you feel more connected to what matters, and help let go of the habit of using the phone to fill any free time you have.

Bid adieu to unnecessary apps. How many apps are on your phone? Now, how many of them do you NEED? Interesting, isn’t it? You don’t have to stay away forever, but rather, limit accessing them to the time you’re on your computer. If you really MUST keep certain apps on your phone, disable the push notifications so you’ll stop picking up your phone every time you get a notification. The freedom you’ll feel just from having a clutter-free phone is amazing, believe me!

But install one more app that will help. So, while unnecessary apps need to go, you should replace them with one app that tracks your screen time. Apps like Moment and BreakFree are just a couple of the more known ones. You can even coordinate them with your whole family so dinner time can truly be spent interacting with each other again, just like the good old days!

Make mindful activities more prevalent on a daily basis. Being addicted to your smartphone is the same as any addiction. Replacing it with a healthier alternative takes some getting used to, but after a while, it just feels right without it. Instead of mindlessly
scrolling along when you feel bored, try some exercise, read a book, or do something else that nourishes your soul or brings you closer to the people in your life.

Smartphones are definitely here to stay, but learning how to detach yourself from them long enough to live in reality is important for a more fulfilling life. Try it and see how much you’ve been missing out on while you’ve been staring at your screen.

Life can be wonderful — full of absolute joy and laughter.  There are some seasons of life that feel too good to be true, but as with anything in life, things ebb and flow.  Naturally, we all have some “down” days, and aside from that natural occurrence, we all go through some rough patches in our lives.  There are some bumps in the road, inevitably, and we need to be kind to ourselves in those instances.

Many times, we feel like we have to keep our head held high and forcibly keep smiling — does that work for you?  Perhaps it does.  Maybe forcing happiness turns into real happiness, sometimes that can absolutely happen.

But, if that’s not the case, I have to tell you this.

If nobody has told you lately, I want you to give yourself complete permission to feel whatever feelings you’re sorting through.  It’s not bad or wrong to explore the darker, more sad feelings — it just gets troublesome when we get stuck there.

So give yourself the space and permission to sift through your feelings, sort them out, and hang them up to dry.

How to Handle the Stress of the World Today

Especially on Social Media

Your job, your full schedule, your family, keeping up with your household — there are enough everyday stresses (that are also beautiful blessings!) to keep us busy. Then we turn on the TV to relax and unwind or hop on our phones to scroll through social media, and we are bombarded with the stresses of the world.

It seems a day can’t go by where we’re not being subjected to political injustices, watching strangers argue on the internet, or learn about some horrible event that occurred. It can feel incredibly overwhelming and dismal.

So what can you do to cope with it all?

1. Unplug. You can’t live life with blinders on, however, when things get to be too much, put down your devices and read a book or go for a walk instead. We’re so focused on our online lives that we often forget our real lives, which is what we need to hold onto even when the world is so uncertain.

2. Unfollow. We all have that one friend. For all of the friends or pages you follow that repeatedly post negatively, unfollow them, or Facebook now has a great option that allows you to take a break from someone.

3. Do something positive for the world. If you find yourself saying, “That’s horrible,” after every catastrophic event, why not see what you can do to help? You might not always be able to donate money, but you can give your time. Even if the catastrophe took place far from where you live, you can contact local nonprofits and find out how you can help by getting involved.

4. Don’t stoop. Tempting as it is to engage in an online battle of wits, the best thing to do is let it go. Getting upset over someone commenting on your opinion isn’t helpful to either party and only serves to make your stress level soar. Consider the source.

Follow these tips, and you’ll find that the stress and tension of today’s world, especially online, stresses you out much less.

The sun goes down before 6 pm, it’s cold and grey, and it can really mess up our groove.  Does this happen to you, too?

This is a huge reason New Year Resolutions are so popular.  It can be quite difficult during the coldest months when we naturally go into hibernation mode.  The Winter Blues are very real, and chances are you’ve dealt with them yourself.

Instead of letting the blues get you this year, try these tips to stay on top of them until the sun comes back out this Spring.

  • Find some sort of exercise.  Even if it’s a stroll around your apartment building or a 10-minute workout on YouTube.  Keeping your endorphins happy a few times a week will help with the slump.
  • Find a way to give back.  Helping people in need is a heart-swelling opportunity to shift our perspective and do something great with our time.
  • Be mindful of the season.  If you know you get the blues this time of year, make decisions with that in mind so that you can set yourself up for success.

What have you noticed that helps you crawl out of the winter blues slump?  Let me know in the comments below.

No matter how hard we try, curveballs will always find a way to sneak in.  It’s an inevitability of life, and that’s perfectly fine — if we are prepared to handle them!

This season especially can feel hectic, rushed, overbooked and anxiety-ridden.  So it’s the perfect time to put your focus on how you handle these stressors of life and make some tweaks to improve any areas that need a pick-me-up.

The thing about a worrisome mind is that it’s typically worrying about the future.  This makes it extremely hard to be present, so being conscious of this is crucial.  Practice being present and mindful of your current moment, the day you’re in right now, and with practice, you’ll notice the stress of tomorrow will dissipate over time.

Sometimes, when I feel particularly anxious, I focus on each of my senses.  What do I smell right now?  What do I see right now?  What do I hear right now?

This brings you to the present moment and helps snap you out of your anxious thoughts.

Try it, it really works!  What are your favorite ways to overcome anxious thoughts?